Guys, is it within Ma’at to fight and stand up to someone who’s been abusive to you for years? I’ve only just started doing so, but it’s causing more problems and arguments than what would happen if I just rolled over and took it. On one hand, it’s making a lot of chaos, but on the other I can’t just be pushed around anymore.
Thoughts?
Yes.
Living in ma’at doesn’t mean that you’re a pushover. It’s not all about love and light. Ma’at can involve kicking people in the shins. Getting rid of toxic people in your life. Setting up boundaries and maintaining them, etc. Technically an abusive person is like having a font of isfet in your life. Removing that font would technically increase the ma’at in your life.
I’ve found that when you try to heal yourself and stand up for yourself, it gets worse before it gets better. People who are abusive and shitty don’t expect you to suddenly call them on their crap. And they often push back and get nasty before things get better. I know that when I began to really fix myself and asked people to stop treating me like shit, I had a lot of fall out with friends and family, and a lot of people left my life.
It’s a hard thing to do, but you gotta take care of yourself. You’re the only person you’re going to have in your entire life, you have to make yourself a priority. And no one deserves to be in an abusive relationship. I know it’s particularly hard when it’s a parent (I saw your other response on this thread), but it’s also worth mentioning that just because a parent brought you into this world, that doesn’t give them the right to treat you like shit.
Definitely within ma’at to take care of yourself. Definitely within ma’at to remove bad people from your life (or distance yourself from them, in cases where you can’t leave entirely).
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